So I’ve been working on myself lately. In other blogs of mine or comments on your blogs I’ve mentioned that I don’t react to change very well. Like not at all. Be it something I changed myself or that circumstances changed for me, I don’t handle it well. I’ve been known to criple myself mentally by focussing on all the negative aspects of said change.
Which means that I keep envisioning negative things and as a results my outlook becomes more negative. A vicious cycle that only spirals downward and that my friends, doesn’t help anyone. I know and realise this but I find it really difficult to snap out of it.
I’ve been discussing this with my brother (from another mother since I’m an only child 🙂 ) and he pointed me towards a beautiful parable which hit home pretty hard. It just makes a lot of sense to me personally. Maybe someone reading this who is facing similar issues can find something within it. I know it did for me:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
This simple story really made sense to me. And lets face it change is the only constant in life. You can’t become better if you don’t change from the person you are now to the person who you are meant (or want) to be. A change in your circumstances does not equate something negative. We need to embrace change as an inherently good thing, even if thats does not seem apparant at first. Feed the right wolf my friends.
Thank you for your time reading this and I hope it is of some use to you as it was to me.