So I’ve been working on myself lately. In other blogs of mine or comments on your blogs I’ve mentioned that I don’t react to change very well. Like not at all. Be it something I changed myself or that circumstances changed for me, I don’t handle it well. I’ve been known to criple myself mentally by focussing on all the negative aspects of said change.
Which means that I keep envisioning negative things and as a results my outlook becomes more negative. A vicious cycle that only spirals downward and that my friends, doesn’t help anyone. I know and realise this but I find it really difficult to snap out of it.
I’ve been discussing this with my brother (from another mother since I’m an only child 🙂 ) and he pointed me towards a beautiful parable which hit home pretty hard. It just makes a lot of sense to me personally. Maybe someone reading this who is facing similar issues can find something within it. I know it did for me:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
This simple story really made sense to me. And lets face it change is the only constant in life. You can’t become better if you don’t change from the person you are now to the person who you are meant (or want) to be. A change in your circumstances does not equate something negative. We need to embrace change as an inherently good thing, even if thats does not seem apparant at first. Feed the right wolf my friends.
Thank you for your time reading this and I hope it is of some use to you as it was to me.
That’s an interesting story indeed. It’s important not to lose sight of what goes on inside of you. Seeking for financial stability is fruitless if you don’t have inner stability.
Good luck with finding and keep feeding your positive wolf man
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Thanks Life, you are absolutely right about inner stability.
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I recently read that parable as well, and also found it to be very appropriate. I’ve written about some of the change I’ve experienced this year and while things have all worked out thus far, that hasn’t necessarily made it super easy to accept and adjust. Hang in there and keep feeding that positive wolf!
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Thanks for the support DivvyDad! It’s somewhat of a revelation/ realization that you make a conscious choice to feed your chain of thought.
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I hadn’t heard of this one before, thanks for sharing. 😀
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You are most welcome Mr. DD!
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I like that parable a lot! Thanks for sharing, Mr. Robot! It makes a lot of sense and that message can be used for a lot of things. Keeping feeding the winning side!
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Glad you liked it RTC!
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Yes, love the wolves parable to remind us that we have choices in our habits and temperaments. I also love the parable of the Mexican Fisherman and the Investment Banker: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onNvoVhqUS0
It’s a great reminder of when enough is enough.
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Hey Caroline, welcome to the blog! I also love that one, great way of showing what’s important in life.
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It sucks that you feel bad with change, but you know something should change. That is maybe the hardest thing to grasp or understand. So you are quite far along already I would say. You wrote a nice piece that had me interested until the last line. Loved the Old Cherokee story/quote. Good luck with the change and keep up the good work on the interwebs!
DI
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Thanks DI, that means a lot. Evenif my own issues are the subject I try to deliver interesting content 🙂
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Hi Mr. Robot. That is such simple, but good advice. We all have those demons to fight. I don’t handle change all that well either. Tom
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Hey Tom, thanks! It helps to know that others share the same difficulties.
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